The Forgiveness Project Part III . . . Incompetents among us

Forgiveness would not be sincere if it involved the humiliation of the forgiven. For this reason, today’s forgiveness focus persons cannot be named. While they work in very different places, they fit the shared description of incompetent professionals.

These people grate me like there is no tomorrow. They sit so pleased with themselves and proud of their station. One in particular loves to discuss himself in the third person. (As in, just call Mr. Wallaby if ever you have a question.)

My professionals are madly in love with rules as they apply to me and mine. Never mind that things aren’t working. Never mind the point of why we’re here. Refer to a manual. Quote something, and everything will be ok. There is a remarkably common love for taking everything I say under advisement. I would think they knew each other and were consulting, except they don’t and they aren’t even professing professionalism in the same worlds. They respond to questions and concerns with nonsensical rule quoting or the infamous, “Hmmmm……I’ll have get back to you.”

The Forgiveness Project is falling apart you say. I have reduced myself to blathering about people far away out there somewhere. No, my friend, the colour of white hot that describes my disdain for these people is more real than I like to admit. The particulars of note manage their way across my landscape frequently. I am at most a few days without the intrusion of one of them into my world. Ideally, they would all be fired or transferred to Hollywood. Instead, I’m scratching my head trying to figure out how to forgive them.

Grudgingly, I admit that I have also sought to do jobs for which I was inadequate. Taking on the promotion of a failing private school at a time when the entire boarding school market was also failing, with no training or experience in advertising or recruitment is probably one of my more glaring stupidities. Remembering my own incompetence pains me whether or not I drive by the now defunct buildings.

Dear Frustrating Professionals,

I cannot pretend I think you are good at what you do or that I find you easy to work with. But I don’t have to hate you for failing me or mine. Whatever is going on in you, isn’t personal to us. I know the feeling that any second now the game will be up and you’ll be standing naked in the corner with a hundred flashlights pointing at you from the darkness. It makes me a little testy and defensive too. Before you were a person with a job, you were just a person. I will try to remember this and I will pray for you. I forgive you for not being who I wanted you to be. If I end up seeking professional services elsewhere, I’ll try to do so with a little grace. Please forgive me for all the ways in which my interactions with you have been so lacking in grace. For the ways I have run roughshod over the dignity of our shared humanity.

Sincerely,

Michelle

3 Comments to The Forgiveness Project Part III . . . Incompetents among us

  1. Erma Joy Cann says:

    Forgiving is never easy,and even harder when those involved don’t care or know they have hurt anyone. I have found that the Lord’s Prayer helps me. That part that says “forgive me the same way I forgive other.” It puts my thousands of sins that have been forgiven in perspective. Keep up the good work !!

  2. Love each ending prayer! Inspiring.

  3. Abby Savoie says:

    I still struggle with a particular situation I was in. I still haven’t completely forgave those involved. I still have bitterness and the desire to expose the entire institution for what it is. Since I was little I have always felt it my job to make sure those around me are acting appropriately and doing what they are supposed to. You probably remember my brothers referring to “happy hour”…the time at the end of the day where I would tell all I had witnessed them doing that mom and dad would not be proud of. As an adult, I fight those tendencies to set everybody straight. I am far from perfect, yet still feel the need for those around me to be so. I am looking for that balance of when to keep people accountable, and when to ignore and let them be. I do strongly believe that if you put yourself in a position of authority or of high responsibility, you will be held to a higher standard than those that don’t. Maybe one day I will learn to forgive those people, that person, but until I do I am going to enjoy the mean thoughts that periodically go through my head. :)